Long Distance Dating: How To Keep The Excitement Alive
Distance is not the only thing you have to worry about
Long distance relationships are plagued with a lot of challenges. The good news is that if both of you are willing to work on them, it will all be worth it. One of these curveballs that you will have to deal with is the almost inevitable monotony.
Monotony happens mainly because of two things. The first is getting used to the routine. You call or text on the same day every day or week. You know exactly when you get to see each other. It gets old pretty fast, and you will get bored. The second reason is the distance itself. Remember the saying ‘out of sight out of mind’?
Yeah; enough said.
Keeping things hot and interesting
With this looming over your relationship like a dark cloud, you need to do whatever it takes to keep things interesting. Don’t worry; you don’t have to do anything extreme or too far out of your comfort zone. Sometimes it takes just a few adjustments and simple sacrifices, and you will notice the difference in no time. Below are some examples that will work.
With LDRs, it is important to have a visiting schedule. However, if you have the means then a surprise visit every once in a while will not hurt. It is a great way to express the desire to see each other and spend quality time.
Surprise phone calls and texts
If getting that ticket is a little too far out of budget then you could always settle for surprise phone calls. Call her at work to remind her how much you love her. Send a flirty text to show him that he is on your mind. It might be small acts, but they make all the difference.
Do not make the rookie LDR mistake of assuming that video chats and air travel sustain these relationships. It is possible to run it like a normal relationship including the going on dates part. All you have to do is be creative. You could do anything from binge-watching a show together to going on a virtual reality quest.
Share a naughty photo or two
They say a picture is worth a million words and these words couldn’t be any truer. If you want to spice things up, then you should consider sending a risqué photo. The whole scandalous nature of it all will get that heart racing which is exactly what you want.
You could also take it a notch higher from the photos to full-on online intimacy. Here, one important thing is to ensure that you are both on the same page. The last thing you want is for it to be awkward for either of you. If you are both game then do it.
Learn something new together
Do not forget that one of the most important aims of being in a relationship is growing together. Therefore, you can keep things interesting by learning a new skill together. That is made a whole lot easier these days with the many online classes available. So whether you want to learn how to bake or speak a new language, it should do wonders for your relationship.
Get a hobby
Another reason why long distance relationships run the risk of growing stale and boring is the lack of individual growth. If your relationship is all you have to focus on, then you will have trouble. To solve this problem, find new interests that will keep you sufficiently preoccupied.
Thoughtful gifts and treats
Finally, you could keep the romance alive by sending each other gifts. There are many different services available that facilitate this where all you need to do is browse their catalogs, pick and pay. It could be flowers, little home décor trinkets, a sentimental gift or whatever else makes them feel special and thought of.
Go forth and give your relationship a new lease on life
If you feel that you have plateaued in your relationship, then these tips will come in handy. They will also help if you are about to start a long distance arrangement and you want to avoid this eventuality. Just remember that the relationship will only be as fun as you and your partner are willing to make it. Another important take-home message is the importance of creativity and spontaneity. That ensures that you do not have time to get bored because you keep switching things up.