Have you ever had that “I miss my boyfriend so bad it physically hurts” wave of emotions? You would give up anything to have them there with you even just for a minute. Anything to hear their voice, to feel their warm hugs, and to spend time with them.
These overwhelming emotions come with the territory if you enter a long distance relationship. And the feelings can sometimes get so bad you end up completely unproductive.
Here are a few tips and tricks to help you cope with the overwhelming feelings of loneliness and get through the darker days.
Sometimes, all it takes is hearing the voice of the one you love to cure the LDR blues. Make a voice call and listen to him as he talks about work or his day. Set up a video chat and take in his gorgeousness as he goes on and on about his buddy Jim. That is guaranteed to make you feel better.
Ask him to send a picture
Another way to get over missing him is by getting a photo of his current activity. It could be anything from a mirror selfie at the gym or a picture of what he is having for dinner. That will help make you feel connected to him and like you are right there as he goes about his errands.
Get a hobby
What is possibly the best solution when it comes to figuring out what to do when you miss your boyfriend is getting a hobby.
Having a hobby will give you an outlet for all your frustrations. It will also allow you to make good use of your spare time. That way, you are not idle enough to obsess over how much you miss him.
Some activities you could do are:
• Working out at the gym
• Learning a musical instrument
• Participating in organized sports like basketball, soccer or swimming
Spend time with your friends or family
This activity allows you to surround yourself with people who love you just as your boyfriend does. It is usually enough to trick your brain into believing it is getting what it so desperately craves. So plan a dinner date with your parents or go shopping with your girls. It will help a lot.
Consider getting a roommate
You can also cure the loneliness by ensuring that there is always someone around when you get home. Having a roommate means you will have someone to talk to and hang out with so that you’re not alone all the time. You could also use the extra cash to get a ticket to see your beau. Win-win.
… or get a pet
If getting a roommate is not your style or is not an option, then consider getting a pet. It will also help minimize the loneliness by giving you access to another living being at home. Your furry little buddy might not talk back, but it is better than talking to yourself.
Plan your next date or meetup
You can also cure your beau blues by planning your next hangout. It could be a scheduled virtual online date where you get to play a game or watch a movie. It could also be an actual physical meetup where one of you visits the other. This planning will get you excited to spend time with him and will help you forget how bad you feel.
Keep yourself busy
An idle mind is the devil’s playground, so keep yourself busy! In addition to the hobbies and new skills you could learn, here are a few day-to-day activities you could try out.
• Take a walk
• Clean and organize your house
• Cook your favorite meal
• Get some work done whether it is an office project or a school assignment
• Read a book
• Listen to LRD music songs
• Take part in a charity
“I miss him so much.” These are words you will never stop saying until you are in a long distance relationship. However, with all the tips and tricks above, you should be able to pull yourself out of the depressing darkness.
The key thing is to keep yourself busy and to learn how to appreciate all that you already have. Then remember that it is not permanent. Eventually, you will be together, and you will never have to say goodbye. Other than every morning when you both leave for work!