How to Know if Your Boyfriend Is Cheating on You in a Long-Distance Relationship

Staying thousands of miles away from one another and not being able to enjoy the physical presence of your partner can be a hard bite to swallow.

LDRs are not for everyone, but if the love is real and you maintain open and honest communication, you probably have a good chance of making it work for you.

 However, if you see too many red flags and your partner’s behavior (and life in general) undergo significant changes that don’t particularly include you, maybe it’s time to put your relationship under a magnifying glass.

 Here are ten signs he is cheating in a long-distance relationship.

The way you communicate has changed drastically

Has he stopped saying ‘I Love You’ or calling you cute pet names? Did you use to video-call every night and share details of your life, but now you only get in touch a few times a week and only over text? Pay closer attention; you might be onto something.

He is always unavailable or unreachable

Technology is the best friend of every LDR. When you take physical presence out of the equation, what are you left with? Virtual communication, right? But, if your partner avoids you online, or worse, you can’t reach him over phone or text, maybe you need to prepare yourself for the worst.

It takes him ages to respond to your calls and text messages

In addition to the previous two points, frequent basic communication is a building stone of every LDR. A text takes no more than 5 seconds to type; a call can be short yet loving and heartwarming.

You don’t want your long-distance boyfriend cheating! You deserve someone who would shower you with attention and be excited to share their life with you, even with all the miles in between.

Attack is the best form of defense

You’ve been doubting his faithfulness for quite some time now, and you finally start asking questions. What do you get in return? More confusion! Now he is guilt-tripping you and pretending to be doubting your loyalty. Trying to deflect the ‘attack’ and confuse you with some cheap reverse psychology is a major red flag.

He always has an excuse to avoid long-distance intimacy

LDR couples are way too familiar with creating intimacy over the phone. Of course, there is nothing better than being curled up on the couch with your partner, but you have to get creative to keep the spark burning. But if this flies out the window for no reason, it might be one of the signs she is cheating in a long-distance relationship.

You know he cheated in the past (not particularly on you)

“Is my long-distance boyfriend cheating on me?” – a question that probably every girl in an LDR has asked herself at least once. Things get more complicated if you already know he has a history of cheating, whether with you or someone else. It’s true that people can learn from their mistakes, but it can make you wonder.

He tries to dodge video calls at any cost

This one would make sense. LDR couples who are truly in love can’t wait to see each other’s faces. No matter how tight their schedules are, they always try to spend some quality time together. But, if he is constantly refusing to get on camera with you (especially at home), he might be afraid of what (or who) you might see.

The people he hangs out with change completely

There is this new group of people he can’t seem to stop talking about. But how did he get to know them? If your partner is seeing someone else, chances are his social circle will change quite significantly. He might even start avoiding his old friends because he will feel guilty and ashamed of his actions. No one likes being judged!

He prefers visiting you than having you over

If he is sharing his place with a few other people and you have the comfort of your own place, it makes sense. But is that all there is to it? If he NEVER invites you to his place, he might be hiding something from you.

You’ve stopped planning your life together

How to know if your boyfriend is cheating on you in a long-distance relationship? Well, this point right here is your wake-up call!

Remember when you used to spend your evenings making all those big plans for the future? You’d talk for hours about where you’d live, what your house would look like, the name of your dog.

If all of a sudden, all that seems like a farfetched fantasy and you don’t even make plans for the next time you see each other, something’s up.

Final words

Relationships are already complicated, more so with all those miles in between. Pay attention if what you are picking up are signs of your partner’s infidelity or signs of your personal insecurities. At any rate, don’t jump to conclusions. Think twice before you break the trust.

I am Jesse, a specialist in long-distance relationships. I have had quite a few great LDR with foreign men. Today I wnat to share what I learned over the years. I hope you will enjoy reading my tips about long distance relationships.

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