9 Ways to Fight Fair in Long Distance Dating
When LDR fights become toxic
Fighting with your long-distance relationship partner can be a challenge. There is something about the conflict in close proximity that makes it so much easier to solve. However, this doesn’t mean that your relationship will crumble from one fight if you live far from each other.
The most important thing in such relationships is to know how to fight the right way. Here are nine tips and tricks that should help you air your grievances and hear your partner out. That way you can get quick solutions and get back to your happily ever after in no time.
How to fight fair
1. Never, under any circumstances, hang up
That is the number one rule for fair fighting in long distance relationships; never hang up. It doesn’t matter how angry you are or how fed up with the argument you have become. It is not only rude and hurtful but also not the most mature way to handle things. Remember that you are dealing with the challenge of distance and your partner cannot follow you when you choose to walk away. So if you get to a breaking point, ask for a recess. You can resume when you both are calmer.
2. Calm down tiger
Fighting when you are mad is never a good idea. In the heat of the moment, you might end up saying something that you won’t be able to take back. So, relax; take a breath and then calmly present your point of view. That also makes it easier for your partner to understand where you are coming from.
3. There’s this fun thing called listening. Try it!
It is very important to speak your mind when you disagree with your long-distance partner. However, never assume that you are the only one with something to say or worse that you are always right. Listen to them and get to understand how they feel. That makes coming to an amicable conclusion so much easier.
4. Choose the right communication channel
With long-distance relationship fights the channel used makes a huge difference. Video calls on AmoLatina are the best way to go. One of the main reasons for this is the fact that you get to see their face and ready expressions as well as body language. It is also important as unlike texts; you can sustain a steady conversation without constantly interrupting each other.
5. Don’t ignore the small stuff
It is the little things you think that do not matter that will come to bite your long-distance relationship in the gluts. It could be that she doesn’t like how late you are at replying to her texts. Or maybe he feels that he makes all the effort to visit and spend time with you. These are not exactly relationship death sentences, but they could easily become that if they are left unaddressed. So, if you don’t like something, however insignificant it seems, be open about it before it is too late.
6. Be honest even when it hurts
Honesty is everything in long distance relationships. When it comes to fighting right then, it is the secret that could save your love. Honesty might hurt at first, but it will make it clear to your partner what you like or don’t like and prevent recurrence of disappointing behavior.
7. … but do not be mean
It is important to be honest, but you should never use it as a weapon with long distance relationship arguments. Find ways to speak your truth without hurting your partner. Even if it means sandwiching hard reality between complements or softer blows.
8. Do not digress
It is very easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment and start arguing about non-issues. You will find yourself arguing about that one time a hundred years ago when he didn’t call you back when the argument was initially about why you are unhappy with your intimacy levels. Try your best to stay focused and handle one issue at a time.
9. Don’t forget you love him/her
Finally, remember that you are on the same team. It doesn’t matter how mad they are getting you right now. You have worked too hard to get where you are so instead of always fighting each other, fight for each other.
In a nutshell, try your best to be civil and understanding. It doesn’t matter whether you are fighting about inconsistent communication or alleged infidelity. The nine tips on how to fight fair should come in handy if you want to keep your long-distance relationship alive.